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Your Best Is Enough

I’m not sure what brought you to this post, whether you need this message for yourself, for your children, or for people you meet on the street, but here it is: Your best is enough.

I know there are rotten people in the world, who spit gum on the ground, double park their cars, and truly don’t care about others. But I’m not talking to them. I’m talking to you.

You wake up early every day to make your child’s lunch. You drive all over creation to get your kids to school, yourself to work, your errands run, and activities attended. Many of your days, you end exhausted, wondering if your efforts make any difference at all.

And then there are seasons like this one, with more trials than usual. With so much out of your control, you feel completely overwhelmed.

Hear these words: You are doing your best. And your best is enough.

This is true of kids, too. Many of them. Sure, they can be patoots now and then, but most of the time, they are doing their best with the skills they have. Sometimes, kids are doing their best even when they’re melting down. And they might need us to recognize it for them.

One of the best stories I’ve heard recently was from another mom of a special needs child at Isaac’s school. She was out with her teenage son, a boy on the autism spectrum, and he was struggling. When a store clerk met him with an unforgiving response, the mom said simply, “He is doing the best he can. I hope you are, too.”

I might not have the wherewithal to say what she did in that moment, though I admire her for it. But sometimes I need that reminder myself. My child is doing his best, and his best is enough.

We’ve all heard the saying, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” (Click here for quote attribution.) And it’s true. I am. You are. Our kids are. That store clerk probably is, too.

I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But I may be reminding you of something you needed to hear again. So be kind, friends. To people you meet. To your kids. And even to yourself. Your best is enough.

Pass it on.

Parenting A Special Needs Child: My Story

This post on parenting a special needs child is my personal (and ongoing) story about being Isaac’s mom. It originally appeared as “Lessons from a Texas Mom” in interview format on Downunder Dad, a blog out of Australia that explores life lessons after the age of forty.

Please visit Downunder Dad’s engaging and entertaining blog and check out the piece he wrote for Gray Colored Glasses, On Parenting and Asperger’s.

Special needs: Not Quite What I Was Planning

When I was pregnant with our first child, my husband and I found this great little book, called Not Quite What I Was Planning. It’s a compilation of six word memoirs (like the title) written by people in all different stages of life, some famous, most not. We loved it so much that we gave it as a hostess gift to several couples who threw us a baby shower.

Little did we know the title would turn out to be prophetic. Child-birth, motherhood, our precious son: none of them were quite what I was planning.

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Guest Post: Downunder Dad on Parenting and Asperger’s

I am grateful to have come across Ann and her lovely blog Gray Colored Glasses via a community resource website we both used while starting our separate journeys. She contributed a heart-felt article to my humble blog Downunder Dad that took my breath away, which you can read here. So the least I could do was repay the favour, right?

Well, it has not been that simple. I have been extremely apprehensive. The blog post she shared with me about parenting a child with special needs (something we discovered we had in common) would have been very personal for her to compile; I know that now. I have struggled, keen to do a decent job. I eventually came up with the post below, and an even deeper appreciation for what Ann wrote and bravely sent to me.

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My First Parent Support Group Meeting

Parent Support Group

Last week, on Thursday, I attended my first parent support group at Isaac’s school. The timing was notable.

The two and a half weeks prior to that meeting had been a blur of sick days and struggling that culminated in a full Mom meltdown and a recognition that I need more support. (See my previous post, How Sick Days Can Make A Mom Unravel.)

And there it was, on my calendar: Thursday, November 14, 8:30-10:00, Parent Support Group. Yes, please.

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How Sick Days Can Make A Mom Unravel

The past few weeks have thrown me for a loop, and it all started with a few sick days. Not me being sick (initially), but my son. In some ways, this is the story of any parent whose child is home from school for a few sick days in a row, maybe with a little more “intensity” than the norm. In other ways, I suspect, it’s a different story altogether.

I am the mom of two kids, one with special needs, and this post–longer than most–is a window into our life.

Going back to sick days

It all started three weeks ago yesterday, on October 28, when Isaac stayed home from school with a GI bug. No big deal, right? Happens all the time. A child missing school because he’s sick. But right from the beginning, I was reminded of our life a few short years ago, when Isaac was younger and everything was hard. I literally went back there, as someone does with PTSD.

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